TRY Coaching — Power of Letting Go
By moving through and letting go of our fears, we can envision and create the life that we truly want for ourselves. By contrast, when we let our preconceived notions about ourselves and our fears take control, we can be paralyzed by them.
Marilyn Ferguson, author of the global bestseller “The Aquarian Conspiracy,” sums up letting go of the fear of change:
“It’s not so much that we’re afraid of change or so in love with the old ways, but its that place in between that we fear…It’s like being between trapezes. It’s Linus when his blanket is in the dryer. There’s nothing to hold on to.”
As an executive and business coach, clients reach out to me as they find themselves in this exact place, Transition. Whether it’s a promotion, a new job or even a new career, letting go of ideas that don’t serve us is one of the most challenging things we can do in life. Transition is a time between trapezes of letting go and trusting that it will be OK. Only when we grab hold of that second trapeze, do we fully realize that our fears made the journey difficult.
Living in the gap, between two trapezes, is our chance to find out who we truly are and who we can be. How many of us are willing to let go of one trapeze, experience that place of uncertainty, and find out what is possible before we actually grasp the second one?
Coaching is about that gap, the place where change occurs, where we can discover and explore who we have to become to reach our goals and desires. It is the place where we ask the question:
What do we want in life and how important is it to get what we want?
It’s a powerful question that we’re not likely to ask when we’re holding onto that one trapeze for dear life. As human beings, we always believe we need to hold onto something, no matter how unhappy it makes us: the job we want to leave, the business we want to start, the relationship that has lost its way, the dreams that we’ve shelved for yet another year. The fear of letting go keeps us from moving forward.
What has holding on to that one trapeze cost you in your life? Can you afford to continue holding onto that one trapeze? Or are you willing to let go and live in the gap until you can reach up and grasp that second trapeze to begin living the life that calls you?